Search
Girl Troubles
blog
Real World Dailies | Post | Girl Troubles
 
 
Post
Katelynn  created this post 36 months ago

When all eight roommates first came together there was an almost palpable kinship between the girls; we bonded quickly and without the trademarked cattiness which is so often observed within the female ranks.  That is not to say, however, that we were without problems.


Devyn and I both have strong, dominant personality types.  We’re both highly intelligent, highly motivated, headstrong individuals with two wildly different perspectives on life.  And we both like to argue.  So when it came to topics we disagreed upon things became somewhat… heated.  Last week you saw her and I get into it over whether or not “African-American” is a pejorative ill-classification or if I’m just wasting my breath over things that don’t matter.  Personally I think that examining racist ethos within a classist society warrants group discussion, but I digress.  This week Devyn wants to know why I’m so cynical. 


You see, I’m a realist and believe that when the group looks at things we need to have both points of view, so I point out some inherent flaws in lines of thought, if only to offset Sarah’s perpetual sunshine.  I’m thoroughly convinced, by the way, that Sarah honestly doesn’t have a negative bone in her whole body; she is rainbows and sunshine 24/7.  I believe that deceiving oneself to the point of ignoring all possible downsides is foolhardy and once again Devyn disagrees.  Though, during that argument there was (and evidently still is based upon the snarky comments) a misunderstanding.

 

I am not now, nor was I ever, “woe is me, I am so sad”.  I identify where things could go wrong to prepare myself for that eventuality so I’m not proverbially sucker-punched.  As an ex Scout the motto “always be prepared” is still one by which I abide.  Devyn and Sarah, as a result of too seeing a fair amount of bad in the world, prefer to not focus their energies on such matters and deal with them as they arise.  Neither one of us is wrong, we just have diametrically opposed ways of looking at the world, and that is not necessarily a bad thing.  It yields balance.  Likewise, as a realist, I know that good is as pervasive in the world as bad, and if the rest of the group were examining inherent flaws I would speak on merits.
Where Devyn misunderstood is that she equated my cynicism with sadness or depression.  Ich ben ein Berliner*.

 

Devyn and I do eventually wind up reconciling our semantics issues and unify against a common foe.  Who? Well, you’ll just have to keep watching.


* The reference here to President John F. Kennedy’s speech is actually an urban legend.  The joke is that “ich ben ein Berliner” means “I am a jelly doughnut” which is false; Berliners refer to their doughnuts as pfannkuchen (pancakes).  Only outside of Berlin in other parts of Germany is “Berliner” used to refer to a jelly doughnut.  President Kennedy’s usage was syntactically correct.

 

For more check out NewNowNext.com,
the gay pop culture & entertainment blog!

 
 
 
 
 
 
0%
 
 
 
 
Flag
URL: 
Comments
Hi Guest, Log In or Sign Up  to comment.

  • laptop battery laptop battery commented | 1 month ago
     
    More and more people are caring the laptop battery’s life now.They want to know how to use so their inspiron 1525 battery,pavilion dv6000 battery or hp g60 battery can last longer time.Well,let me give u some useful tips.
    1. Keep your 1525 battery or inspiron 1545 battery cool. Dell 1525 battery degrade more quickly when they're hot. That means you should keep vents clear -- don't put your laptop on a fluffy pillow or a cushioned surface that will cover vents and trap heat.
    2. Don't pack your laptop away in a backpack or other enclosed space when the dv6000 battery is still warm, trapping the heat. The hp dv6000 battery that's frequently hot to the touch will lose life a lot faster than the pavillion dv6000 battery that isn't constantly being stressed. Worst of all: If your laptop crashes or refuses to shut off properly, the hp dv 6000 battery can get extremely hot when packed away in your bag. Check it to make sure it hasn't gotten dangerously hot while stowed away over the weekend.
    3. Don't charge your laptop constantly. If you only occasionally take your laptop away from a power outlet, but leave it plugged in to charge 24/7, you're leaving your laptop in a state of perpetual charge at the 100% point -- and that is bad for the g60 battery 's long-time health.
    4. If you tend to use your laptop mainly at your desk, exercise your hp dv4 battery by running it down and recharging it once or (even better) twice a month.
    5. Alternately, you might want to physically remove the dv4 battery if you're using the laptop at your desk for long stretches of time. If you do remove it, don't store it in a fully charged or depleted state. It's best to store it in the middle -- between 40 and 50 percent of full charge.
     
    Flag
     
     
     
  • usucdik usucdik commented | 36 months ago
     
    What the hell was with that Kennedy sh it? I just threw up in my mouth.

    Anyway, the African American stuff is just silly. I don't see anything pejorative about it, but no one should be using it if you're not born in Africa or don't have a dual citizenship. The culture thing is so played out and it's gotten quite annoying. I'm not caucazoid-American or anything having to do with other nations; that might me look foolish.

    This aggrandized image of Africa is just lame, and really I don't know why people would want to associate with that place anyway. What is just so great about putting it into your image?

    Also, I've only seen one other comment about this, but the order of words is correct. It's not about which comes first (a place or nation, in this example). It has to do with grammar and how adjectives work.

    P.S. Devyn is such an airhead.
     
    Flag
     
     
     
  • SwoozyK SwoozyK commented | 36 months ago
     
    Katelynn, I think you might be missing part of Fajita's point. The term African American means so much more to Devyn and other African Americans. It connects them and reminds them of their place in a 400 year history of hardship, tears, kidnapping, slavery, segregation and eventually hope and progress. Their history in this country began with being stolen from their own home against their will and then taken to this one. Many Americans of European descent or of other descents cant trace their family lineage back quite easily, but this isn't so with African Americans and by refering to themselves as African American they are able to regain a small sense of that personal history. If someone wants to use the term African American as a way to lessen their worth or belittle someone from the African American community that is wrong, but it also should not lead to the African American community no longer having this way of identifying themselves.

    Imagine if someone told you that you shouldn't identify yourself as transgendered because you're no longer in the "trans" stage, you're a woman now, just "gendered" if you will, and that's how you should identify yourself. The problem is that would ignore the journey you went on to become a woman and how everything you endured on that journey shaped who you are. Of course you don't identify yourself as Transgendered American, but in the same way African Americans have endured much on their journey to becoming Americans and the "African" part of their personal way of identifying themselves reminds them of that.

    Should we live in a country where a person's race, ethnicity, sex, creed and religion does not matter? Without a doubt. Sadly, we aren't there yet and some things still ask us identify our sex or ethnicity in order to make sure the playing field is even and make it even if it is not yet. By the way, congratulations. You've now joined the rest of us women in the 51% minority to men. You're now going to make less money, face more glass ceilings than you imagined at your job and be banned from other jobs altogether. In all honesty, I think now that you're a woman some of your opinions on whether or not race or sex still needs to be acknnowledged will change now that you're on the receiving end of an unfair system with the rest of us women.

    Also, and please take this as constructive criticism from one writer to another, but Grrandram is right about you're writing. It seems like you are trying too hard to sound overly intellectual or wordy. In the end you're very hard to understand and your point is lost and there is little or no soul to your writing. If you feel that an overly intellectual or bourgeoisie prose is your writer voice, I'm not trying to stop you, but this is a very difficult voice to convey your point in. I would recommend you look at some other writers who have done well with this voice to get a better idea of how to tweak your own. William F Buckley is a good place to start, and despite the fact that I disagree with much of what he had to say it is still a great example of this style of writer voice. Christopher Hitchens is good, too, but he can be downright mean sometimes. In the end though, the best writing is done when you aren't afraid to lay bare emotion and vulnerability. "Be" Katelynn when you write, not who you want Katelynn to be.

    I don't think anyone on here is out to get you or anything, but you brought up some touchy subjects and that's bound to raise the temperature in the room. Best of luck and find that writer's voice. ok
     
    Flag
     
     
     
  • grrandram grrandram commented | 36 months ago
     
    Why would the term "African-American" be pejorative if that's what some people use to classify themselves? They're not being forced to use it, but if they do, what's the big deal? Sarah may be rainbows and sunshine 24/7, but that doesn't mean she is deceiving herself. That just may be how she would prefer to be, instead of being a Negative Nancy. Just because a person doesn't vocalize things that can go wrong doesn't mean that they aren't aware of that possibility. It's not necessarily an eventuality that things will go wrong. The Boy Scouts of America motto is just "Be Prepared". Some people might find some inherent flaws in your line of thought and that you are actually deceiving yourself about who and what you are. Would you want to be told those things? People probably misunderstand what you are saying because you sound convoluted and end up not making any sense.
     
    Flag
     
     
     
  • Katelynn Katelynn commented | 36 months ago
     
    It's painfully obvious you speak just for the sake of hearing your own voice. I was not and have *never* told Devyn "how she should feel". I was discussing whether or not the term "African-American" was being used in manner to debase an entire class of people. For starters, I dare you find me a marker, pencil, or crayon with the color "African American". It doesn't exist because that term does not equate to black. It conveys race, not color, and if you spent less time on your soapbox you might've had the time to do your homework before you came here to tout your pious opinions.

    And again, I never faulted Sarah for being positive, it's an endearing quality that I love about her. My cynicism is about balance and perspective, two things as an individual you are obviously lacking.
     
    Flag
     
     
     
  • Fajita McJones Fajita McJones commented | 36 months ago
     
    Who do you think you are? You have absolutely no right to tell Devyn how she should feel about her background or to tell her what should be the best way for her to describe herself. Do you know why that is? It's because you have no idea what it means to be her! How would you feel if someone who isn't transgendered told you that you should think of yourself, a transgendered woman, in a way different than you do? "How dare them!" you'd say. Why? Because they have not had the experience of being a transgendered woman that you have and they don't understand. In the same way, you don't understand what it is to grow up black or African American. Your arrogance is only made worse by the way you "debate" her. Take another look at 0:10 where you're holding your finger up and giving her the "Ah, no no no no no no," line. Nice discussion skills, Bill O'Reilly. Also, don't you dare fault Sarah for her positive outlook on life, or try to say that she is deceiving herself. She has been through hell (and i acknowledge that you have been through a different kind of hell) and the fact that she is even able to get out of bed in the morning after what she endured should be commended.

    I was really looking forward to hearing your story and seeing what you had to offer in the way of being an advocate for transgendered people. So far you've been more annoying than a source of actual substance. Next week's episode (6) doesn't look any better: Katelynn gets drunk and pole dances, embarassing her friends. Don't worry, I know that doesn't reflect on transgendered people as a whole.
     
    Flag
     
     
     
  • mopheadnh mopheadnh commented | 36 months ago
     
    i may be the only one that agrees with your view of cynicism. those who lie to themselves to be positive, are not truly happy.
     
    Flag